Kids are kids. When we want them to listen, they sometimes seem distracted. And yet, when we’re talking to others, they seem to hear every word. It’s true in our homes. It’s true in our classrooms.
But what is it they are hearing? Words of encouragement and an appreciation of effort can be motivating for students. On the other hand, an overheard comment about presumed ability can be deflating. I’ve seen it happen. When a teacher doesn’t believe that a student is capable–and voices this within earshot of the student–the results are devastating. These comments often lead to a lack of effort: “I can’t do it? Well then, why try?”
We should always assume our students are listening. So what is it that we want them to hear?
It’s certainly not about misleading comments or false praise. It’s about using words to lift students and inspire them to be their best. Your words matter!